A Teen of my own

I have been offered a ‘Coping with your teenager’ course from the High School my eldest will join in September.

Do I need a course to face the issues that come with being a teenager? Do I need a course on how to cope with my own son? What pressures and changes will we face that could lead to issues at home or at school?

I like to think Riley and I have a close relationship. I try to keep on top of what is important to him and what is going on at school and with friends. I always know when something is wrong. Riley opens up to me and my husband and he trusts us. I love that he is confident and secure in telling us anything.

I’m not naive, I know teens are hard, I was one myself and I remember it all too well. My 14 year old nephew has certainly tested his parents over the past 2 years. But under it all, he’s still the same loving boy that we love with all our hearts and he’ll never shy away from a hug with his Auntie Toosh.

Going to a course at a new High School, open to all parents of the new year 7 and current years 7, 8 and 9 parents. That’s potentially hundreds of parents I’ve never met and that scares me more than having a teen under my roof.

I know Riley will change. He is already changing and he’s not 11 yet. Walking with him at the weekend he referred to something as ‘sick’. I pretended not to care. Sick to me will always mean ill, or at a stretch something horrible and yuck. Sick for something good? My mind boggles and I realise 36 is old.

This week is year 6 SATS week. The school have been fantastic, I am confident Riley will do his best. He will sit SATS tests for maths, reading, spelling, grammar and punctuation.

Riley’s teacher really struck a chord with something she said to the children and I would like to share it, for Riley and all year 6’s this week to remember:

“The tests do not assess all of what makes you special and unique. The tests don’t know you like I know you, our school knows you and your families know you.

They do not know that some of you are incredible dancers, that some of you are whizzes at ICT and some of you have fabulous talents for art. They have not seen all the music lessons you do or the marvellous sport talent you show. They do not know that you have hearts of gold, you support your friends without question and inject our classroom with laughter and fun that brightens every day. They are not aware of your kindness, your thoughtfulness or that you try your very best.

The scores from the tests will tell you something, but not everything. They do not define who you are. There are many ways of being smart, you are all smart. So while you are preparing for the test, remember that there is no way to ‘test’ all the amazing and awesome things the make you, YOU.”

At the end of the week we will celebrate your achievement and you can relax and enjoy your last weeks in year 6.

In September, Riley will start high school, which I look forward to as much as him. In 2 years he will become a teenager. It is a huge adventure and I can’t wait to share it with him.


6 thoughts on “A Teen of my own

  1. I feel like I have a teenager already – he’s four! But certainly acting like a teenager of late. I guess I will be well prepared for nine years time. I love the positive attitude you have about your son becoming a teen, so many have the opposite. #ThatFridayLinky

  2. What a strange. Course still each to their own good luck Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

  3. A teenage course with that tag line sounds a little bit patronising… teens and being a teenager are hard, but we just need love and a hug at the end of the day x

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