We’ve been invited out with friends for an anniversary meal next weekend. We said no. Here’s why…
We have 4 children and I brought them into this world so that I could look after them. Yes, I could look after them. Not my parents, not my in laws, not the babysitting teen down the road. ME.
I’ve touched on it before in my blog. How I was raised, how John was raised. If my parents were invited out without an invite for the children, they simply didn’t go.
We’re all about our little (ok big) family. We love our kids and want to do as much with them as possible. I want them to look back on the best memories with us.
One of my brothers is the complete opposite. Both of my brother’s wives are too. Every given opportunity to get footloose and fancy free and they’re off. Not a week goes by without a babysitter, in the shape of a grandparent or family friend. Not just once in a week either. But that’s just not me.
If course that’s not to say we’ve never had babysitters and never ever go out, it’s just that it’s a rarity and its also hard.
We appreciate 4 children is hard work. Hell, we live with them! Now there’s a puppy in the mix too!
My mum is poorly so I wouldn’t dream of asking my parents any more. We should be looking after her, not the other way around. Not that it stops some asking, which breaks my heart.
The in laws have offered to babysit in recent months and they love spending time with the kids. The only problem is the little comments we then get when they do.
“How long will you be?”, “You’re late!”… it was 8:30pm…
We never ever go out for long, a quick meal and we’re home.
They probably don’t know we take it to heart but we do.
Aside from our parents there is no one else on this earth I would trust with the care of all of our children.
I couldn’t ever trust a stranger with my children either. I know local teens offer babysitting services that my friends use. My children are my life, my responsibility and it just doesn’t sit right with me.
Are we over protective parents? Yes, probably. Are we missing out? No, we don’t think we are. So when we do go out, its rare and its special and we appreciate it all the more.
So we won’t be going out next weekend for our friends anniversary meal. We won’t be going out on our own for a meal for John’s birthday in 2 weeks. We’ll be spending it with our children, like we do every year. We wouldn’t have it any other way.