It wasn’t until a Myers Briggs personality assessment at work defined me as an INFJ – the rarest personality type – that I realised why I am like I am!
In a nutshell, the INFJ:
Introvert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judging… is a complex character. We are generalised as ‘doers’ and ‘dreamers’ that are deeply concerned with relationships and humanity.
Taken from Wikipedia:
INFJs tend to be quiet and reserved. They generally prefer interacting with a few close friends rather than a wide circle of acquaintances, and they expend energy in social situations.
INFJs are more abstract than concrete. They focus on the big picture rather than the details, and on future possibilities rather than immediate realities.
INFJs tend to value personal considerations above objective criteria. When making decisions, they often give more weight to social implications than to logic.
INFJs tend to plan their activities and make decisions early. They derive a sense of control through predictability.
I could go into it so much more, but if you are interested in finding out your personality type and learning more, I would definitely recommend it!
Ok, to give an insight into the introvert that’s me…
Things I hate:
- Answering the phone
- Making a phone call
- Unexpected visitors
- Booking appointments
- Walking into any room full of people
- Complaining when something is wrong
- Feeling like an inconvenience
- Feeling judged
- Presentations or speaking in front of a group
Things I love:
- Cancelled plans
- The internet
- Texting (although I can be rubbish at replying)
- Online booking facilities
- Time alone to recharge
- Close bonds
- Quiet nights in with my husband
Things I can’t help:
- Overthinking EVERYTHING
- Worrying about what others think
- Making a huge effort
- Being afraid of everything
- Feeling paranoid
- Criticising myself
- Being quiet
- Being emotional
- Being highly sensitive
- Trying to work out the how, why and what of everything!
All of the things listed above send me into a frenzy and my anxiety spirals! My husband is an extrovert and can’t always understand why I like to hide away or why I worry so much, but he knows my quirks and wouldn’t have me any other way.
Being quiet and reflective has often had me mistaken as grumpy or snooty. I have been rejected or judged before the real me is understood. I love to listen and will of course speak non stop when I feel connected and comfortable with someone.
I hope my children have a little of the extrovert that is my husband in them. I want them to have the confidence I’ve never had. I think they are doing well, they are all confident when they have important speaking roles in school assemblies and plays. Something that always terrified me.
Since understanding I’m an introvert and what that means, I’m happier in my own skin. It’s ok to be me!